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Are You A Victim of Minimizing Language?

The ability to communicate effectively and confidently has a dramatic effect on our ability to advance, and at times, you may find yourself falling into the trap of using weak language that sabotages your efforts to present yourself with authority and confidence.

For example, look at the following sentence:

“I would just like to say I’m not an expert, but I do know a bit about the subject.”

This one sentence says it all! By using the words “just”, and stating that I am not an expert, but, you have reduced your credibility to almost zero! How many times have you heard people communicate this way? How many times have you yourself spoken this way?

Replace weak words such as: “I think”, “I believe”, and “I feel”, for stronger options such as “I’m confident”, “I’m convinced”, “I expect”. These simple replacements can make a difference in how your message is perceived.

Look at the same sentence using powerful words:

“I do know a bit about the subject and in my opinion….”

Another example of weak language is using tag lines at the end of a sentence. For example: “This is a great article, don’t you think?” and “Our team is functioning great, isn’t it?” A tag line at the end of a sentence weakens the statement. It lowers your authority as a speaker. It communicates that you are not completely confident and must seek reassurance.

Focus your communication at gaining respect above being liked. Avoid weak language so that people hear your message clearly.

Taking out weaknesses in your communication doesn’t mean you are aggressive, or forceful. Not at all! The kind of strength you develop in communicating without diminishing language allows you to be direct and assertive and will create an environment for others to feel your authority, to see your credibility and to respect your expertise. Be yourself, be authentic and communicate fearlessly.

Become aware of when you use weak language and eliminate or replace the words and phrases that have a negative impact on your professional image.

True story: I coached a client who introduced me to someone who asked what I did for a living. “I work with senior leaders to help them adapt to and lead effectively in foreign cultures. I help my clients develop their global leadership personas,” I said. It is hard work, it requires lots of planning, researching and interviewing, and I am quite successful at it. My friend’s friend chimed in, “Oh she’s one of those who can’t get a full time job,” then giggled. I felt diminished. This type of undermining is destructive to relationships. I, of course, bounced back and corrected her. I also learned how to respond to such underhanded comments.

These types of comments are passive-aggressive and many times they go unnoticed or get passed over as a joke. They are not jokes, they are destructive comments meant to undermine you.

You’ve probably been there. Maybe it’s at work. Maybe you want to eat healthier so you can lose weight. Or maybe you’re spending less money as a way to get your finances in order. Whatever the situation, most of us have dealt with a friend, a colleague or a family member who seems to enjoy knocking you down a peg.

It’s called social undermining, and it may seem harmless, but it can take an emotional toll on you. You start to doubt yourself, you feel a lack of support, and after a while, and especially if it continues, you become resentful.

So how do you nip undermining behavior in the bud? Look at the following tips.

Understand the Signs

Before anything, make sure you’re actually dealing with social undermining. We all put our foot in our mouths occasionally. What seems like social undermining might just be someone saying something stupid. For example, when you comment that you saved a bundle on your daughter’s wedding and your friend comments, I agree “cheap” weddings could be great. Quickly realize that she may have been unaware that her comment was off and that what may have sounded to you like a criticism is really something she admires and It was an honest mistake; it was not intended to hurt feelings. However, when there is an underlying motive, you are dealing with a different scenario.

An “Underlying Motive” is behavior intended to hinder and weaken your goals or successes.

Take note of the following traits in someone who does this?

They do it to others: Take notice you’re not the only one they speak to in such manner.

You feel defensive around them: You feel defensive, like you have to prove something, and you’re not quite sure why.

They’re judgmental: They like to gossip about the lifestyle choices of other friends or family members. They might disguise gossip and judgment as concern.

They’re great at backhanded compliments: Their compliments, however, seem strange and insulting.

They overcompensate: They oversell themselves as supportive, nurturing, or caring and use statements such as, I’m only saying this because I love you and care about you.

They tempt you: They steer you away from your goals by offering tempting alternatives. When you’re trying to stick to a diet, they urge you to eat unhealthy food. When you’re trying to save money, they tempt you to splurge.

If you really are unsure if the person you are communicating with is undermining you, ask someone you trust to observe and ask them what their thoughts are.

I end this piece with my famous quote: “Fortitude is the foundation of successful communication – and successful communication is the foundation of success.” © 2018, Candida Marques Global Arrival, LLC

Individualist Cultures vs. Collectivist Cultures Why Understanding the Differences Helps you Lead Effectively

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What does the concept of these two dimensions mean for you as a leader? Why would it even matter? Today I write about these two elements knowing that it will help you not only function better in your job, but help you lead effectively.

Before we begin, though, let me explain and define each type: First, no culture is exclusively individualist or collective, not mention individuals within each also vary according to personality. Most, however, tend to be MORE one than the other. In addition, neither is wrong or superior/inferior to the other, they are merely different. Understanding those differences and knowing how to apply them in your work life is what matters and what this article is about.

Typical individualist characteristics of each are as follows:

Individuals from predominately individualistic cultures tend to identify primarily with the self and with their own needs being satisfied before those of the group. The tendency to care for oneself and being self-sufficient is a dominant characteristic. Independence and self reliance are stressed and highly valued. By and large people in these cultures tend to distance themselves psychologically and emotionally from each other. Being part of a group is not essential for one’s identity or success.

On the other hand, individuals from a predominately collectivist culture have their identities meshed with that of the group, the family or the work team. The survival and the success of the group ensure the well being of the individual. In these societies, protection to the individual is guaranteed by the group. Harmony and interdependence of group members are highly valued and group members are close psychologically and emotionally to each other, but distant toward non-group members.

So how can this information benefit you and how can you spot the differences immediately?

To explore this I share a true and personal story:

While living overseas, I had an electrical issue in my apartment, a member of my network sent over an electrician to fix the problem. He arrived and began working on the issue; he needed a few new parts and said he would be back later with the part to finish the job. The next day, he arrived with the part, fixed the problem and was very pleased with himself. I asked him how much I owed him; he said, Oh my goodness, nothing of course.” I asked if I could I buy him lunch. He said, “Oh no, that is not necessary.”

Didn’t he understand that what he did was work? Didn’t he need to make a living? This was very surprising for me, because in my culture you pay or barter such services.

I experienced similar situations during my overseas living when my friend sent over a manicurist to my home to give me manicures; she never would allow me to pay her. These patterns continued during my time overseas, for example a friend of a friend helped us move furniture into our new office, and a seamstress would hem clothing for me all without ever charging me.

At first I thought, they must want to be kind to me, because I was a foreigner and they wanted to make me feel welcomed, but as time moved on, I realized that that was how things worked over there. It was how they maintained a sense of community. How they looked after each other. The primary value was placed on people and their relationship to people, not on goods and services.

That does not mean these professionals did not make a living, they did; they charged those outside of their network, but if you are an insider you don’t get charged, but you are also expected to give back when they are in need.

Look around your environment, is this the common type of behavior, if you answered yes, chances you are living and working in a collectivist society.

Let us explore this concept a bit further by examining the behaviors of these two different ways.

I will describe a few behavioral patterns; try to decide whether they tend to be individualistic or collectivist by nature:

  • People give cocktail parties.
  • Employee rewards are offered.
  • Contracts are used frequently.
  • Short-term relationships are common.
  • Self-help books are common.
  • People answer the phone by giving the name of the organization.
  • People adhere to tradition.
  • Decisions are made by consensus.
  • Intergroup rivalry is common.

I hope most of you were able to quickly determine the differences. But now let us review.

If people give cocktail parties, the tendency is individualist, because of the casual superficial contact with a lot of people; collectivists tend to associate with fewer people at a time.

If in your organization employee rewards are offered, you are working in a predominately individualist mindset because the company singles out the individual over the group.

Contracts keep people honest; collectivists expect honesty or the member will be shunned from the group. In addition, if you work in an environment where everything is written and reviewed by your legal department, chances are your environment is that of an individualist attitude. In collectivist cultures the spoken word is valued over a written contract. If there is a contract, it can be modified at anytime.

Long term relationships tie people down; individuals from predominantly individualist cultures move around a lot, so they are less loyal to the place and the people in those places, where as people in collectivist societies rely on their inner-circle of contacts for support, belonging and to get assistance when needed.

Self-help books are common in individualist societies, peoples from these cultures tend to seek counseling outside the inner group of friends and family and rely on books to help them attack, understand and deal with complicated issues. Going outside the group for assistance is normal and acceptable.

In contrast, in a collectivist culture, people rely on their inner network of friends and family for support during times of stress or crises, one would never dream of discussing delicate matters with those outside of the tightly held inner group. The inner group offers support and help to insure the survival and well-being of the individual. Going outside the group could be disastrous and shameful for the family and could result in the individual getting shunned or disciplined from the elders or the leaders of the tightly held group.

If People answer the phone by giving the name of the organization they share a collectivist mindset, because giving your name would put you before your association. Something someone from a collectivist culture would never do.

Of course, with today’s technology, no one barely answers a phone, but the gist still remains when interacting and having conversations with individuals, do they tend to refer to their families, their teams, their company more than themselves? If so, chances are they view themselves and their surroundings from a collectivist standpoint.

If you company or the people around you adhere to tradition, chances are they value elders and senior people are listened to. Tradition is honored in collectivist cultures. They don’t re-invent the wheel, the wheel has been established from the past, and if it worked then, it will work today.

To better understand this concept, Look at how individuals speak, if they go back to expressing the root of tradition and how it is important, chances are they are collectivist by nature, if they tend to want the new and improved and seek change, they tend to behave more individualist. The same applies to a company’s culture. Some companies’ foster interdependence, the family attitude and mindset prevails over the individuals of the company. Other companies expect fast results and quick performance, they move swiftly and honor individual contributions over that of the group.

If decisions are made by consensus chances you are in a collectivist environment. In a collectivist culture group decisions prevail over individual decisions, this way no one feels left out. The majority rules and the minority get left out. This is a way of maintaining harmony and peace within a network with a familial way of operating.

If inter-group rivalry is strong in your organization be aware that within a group collectivists tend to stick together and conflict is keep to a minimum, they will however, compete with other groups.

This is one area of team management that often times get overlooked; especially when there is inter-departmental team conflict, hoarding of information and competition. Addressing this type of mindset, will help your teams function stronger and improve the operations of your organization.

I hope through these brief behavioral patterns you can see the relationships and connections within your own life circle? Do you see some of these behaviors at your organization? Which are the dominate tendencies? Understanding these concepts go far in establishing authority and success for yourself and for those around you.

Your Global Brand – Marketing a Collectivist Mindset

Do you see marketing as promoting your products and services? If you answered yes, try reversing this concept to: Marketing is the act of creating need, whether it’s the creation of new ideas and products, or identifying long-term products and ideas. (Take your products and services and create a need). Don’t expect the marketplace to jump to you; you must create for the marketplace. This concept works domestically as well as globally. Let me explain:

Selling is the act of providing alternatives that fill the needs you’ve created. This concept works in your own country as well as in other countries, but in order to effectively market yourself globally, you must understand how your host country is different than your own.

Below I will highlight a few pointers to help you see how you can dramatically grow your business by refocusing how you present and sell yourself:

  • Think from the outside in — meaning from your audience in, match your client’s needs to your products and service offerings. Don’t tell them how great you are; instead tell them why they will be better off having engaged with you. Pitch your work from the standpoint of the customer’s improved condition, not your own needs. No matter where in the world you work, this concept stands the test of time. Why? Because this concept is about building for others, it is a collectivist mindset and this way of thinking is recognized worldwide.
  • Collect referrals — The time to get referrals is while you are in the job process and active with your client, not after you’ve left and the relationship becomes tepid. Tell your buyer that referrals are the growth of your business and ask if they would be willing to introduce you to colleagues, acquaintances, their trade association leaders and know that in large organizations referrals need only be to other departments or divisions. This idea works best in the US. When working abroad, however, you must tailor this concept and wait until you have established relationships with your new business partners. This process may take longer to develop when you are overseas. In some cultures, you don’t even ask, because if you have serviced your client well, they will automatically refer you.
  • Look at your website — make sure it provides value, not boring advertising. Post interesting articles, provide interesting links to other pages on your site, offer products that are custom tailored to your audience.

    This concept is widely accepted in foreign cultures where the mindset is “Do for the Group.” “Do your best to serve others.”

  • Publish — from your audience’s prospective, combine their needs into your services and offerings. At the global level, this attitude appeals to almost any culture. Who wouldn’t want value that is especially designed to help?
  • Leverage — Do not create anything that doesn’t have an end purpose. For example, a paper you write can be posted on your website, pro bono work can lead to publicity photos. Explore all areas where you can apply what you develop with the “Let me serve my audience mindset,” and you will become a magnet to people from all corners of the globe.
  • Ignore the competition — Do not allow the competition to determine your marketing strategy your job is to create your unique niche, in which you become number one, not to pursue your competitor as an attempt at becoming better than them. They are already great at what they do. Find your specific area and develop that space so you can become the leader in your field.

    This concept is never more important than in the global marketplace. Most collectivist societies seek professionals to do the things they can’t, but you must be the expert in your field. Many world cultures view experts and degrees and education as the cornerstone of credibility. So ignore your competition and work at becoming the best you can be. That expertise will take you far in the global marketplace.

I end this piece with my famous quote: “Remember – you are a foreigner everywhere except in your own culture.” © 2018, Candida Marques Global Arrival, LLC

Three-Steps to Your Global Leadership Persona™ Do or Die

Leaders in general must be able to have a streamlined process for getting things done, this concept is as important in your home turf as it is when you are on a global assignment. Below I detail my three-step process for developing your leadership persona no matter where in the world you are:

BUILD – Awareness

REMOVE – Mystery

APPLY – Native Intelligence

DO or DIE the Journey…

Build Awareness

Understand yourself and your very own culture first

  • What you stand for
  • What you value
  • What got you here
  • Personal beliefs
  • Cultural history
  • Cultural beliefs

Remove Mystery

DO

  • Detail – values yours and your culture’s (think… history)
  • Observe – same/different – how are things the same or different in your surroundings?

Apply Native Intelligence

DIE

  • Describe – what you see – what are your surroundings
  • Interpret – what you believe to be the meaning of what you see
  • Explain – what you learned and how you may apply it to your current situations

After you understand yourself and your own country’s cultural beliefs you will be able to interpret your new global surroundings because you have a frame of reference from which to go by.

What is your Global Leadership Persona™?

“It is the ability to bring the best of who you are to any new situation while fitting into the culture, and leading in a way that creates respect and loyalty among those you lead.” Candida Marques – Global Arrival © 2018.

I end this piece with my famous quote: “Remember – you are a foreigner everywhere except in your own culture.”

Candida Marques – Global Arrival ©2018.

Crossing Borders with Eyes Wide Open

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When most people arrive to a new culture they are mesmerized with their surroundings. In the scope of culture, this concept is called the “honeymoon phase.”

It is quite normal for you to be intrigued when you arrive to a new country, but this love affair quickly ends when you must begin working with, living among and interacting with the peoples of your new environment. Below I share with you a few tips on how to manage this first stage of culture shock:

Arrive Prepared: – Your success depends on your being prepared. It is like hiking, in order to stay on path and accomplish your goal of completing the hike you will need to be aware of your surroundings. Understand them and your place in it. For example, if you plan to hike a new or difficult path you must arrive prepared with the proper hiking boots, appropriate clothing, have enough snacks and drinks so you can stay hydrated, same applies when you enter a new culture, you must understand the new surroundings in order to effectively function with your new environment’s boundaries.

Keep an eye on things: – While hiking, you will need to keep an eye on the trail. What do you see, is the path properly marked with green, red or blue colors; or is it poorly marked, or not marked at all? If you enter a new culture and do not understand the simple functions of that new society you will have a difficult time navigating your way around. Keep your eyes wide open to how others around interact with each other, it will help you prevent minor or serious mistakes early on.

Look at things from different angles: – At times during your hike, you may need to look up, look out or look around yourself; this allows you to can gain perspective on where you are. For example, watch how people greet each other in casual meetings and contrast it with how they greet each other at work. Pay notice to the local environment’s media, how do they portray business people, family, children, all these images are telling you what the culture values.

Prevent yourself from getting lost: – In order to not get lost while hiking you must look back. This is the point during your journey where you stop walking, turn around and look back, check out your back trail. Doing this prevents you from getting lost. You get a clearer picture of where you came from when you look back; this looking back process allows you to move forward. “When it comes to culture and your new surroundings, you must look back at your roots, the ways in which you were brought up play a major part in how you interact in your new environment.”

“The looking back process is most overlooked. When I work with leaders, I ask them to look back. It is one of the most important steps towards global growth. If you don’t look back, you can’t move forward.” 

Look ahead, plan for the unexpected: We have “looked back,” now we must “look forward.” At times, during your hike, you will need to stop and look ahead so you can plan and think about where you want to go. Ask yourself, are there any obstacles preventing me from completing my hike? Same applies to global business, you must be willing to look ahead at obstacles that may block your forward movement, sometimes the blocks are small, sometimes big, but looking ahead allows you to plan as best you can for them. Even if you can’t change them in the here and now, knowing they may show up allows you to not be caught off guard.

Don’t do it alone: – Just as it is recommended that you never hike alone, the same applies to global leadership, have a support system in place in case you hit crossroads, barriers or obstacles. Sometimes in hiking you may come to a fork in the road and may need to think about which path is the way to go, or you may not be able to see far enough ahead into the path to determine how to proceed. Should things suddenly not look right or you feel confused, you may need to have others guide you so you can remain on course or pick a new direction.

Have a map: – When hiking it helps to have a map of where you are and where you would like to end up, it is the same when you are developing your Global Leadership Persona™ you will need to be aware of where you are, understand where you are going, and prepare for the unexpected. Your success depends on it!

I end this piece with the following:Pay attention to your surroundings, be mindful of where you are within your surroundings. This type of attitude will allow you to reap the benefits of a more productive and invigorating work and living environment.”

Candida Marques – Global Arrival ©2018.

 

Helping women understand the cultural assumptions that drive business in foreign lands.

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Helping women understand the cultural assumptions that drive business in foreign lands

Both men and women can learn how to bow, kiss or shake hands effectively, but when it comes to global management, addressing deeper cultural issues is the challenge for both sexes. This challenge, however, is slightly more complicated for women than it is for men.

Most men will never have to experience flirtatious behavior or deal with sexual advances, nor will they need to defer power in a meeting, or go the extra mile to prove who they are in order to succeed while on a foreign assignment.

When I coach female global leaders, the most common question I am asked is:

Q: When I am traveling overseas on business or working on a global assignment in a foreign country, how do I handle flirtatious behavior and sexual advances?”

A: Begin by understanding machismo. Most people might think that this problem is a “women’s problem,” but it is not, it is a problem faced by both sexes, women, however, feel the negative effects of it more often than men.

In most Anglo Saxon cultures “machismo” means acting in a manly fashion so as to magnify the male role while diminishing the female role. In the other 90% of the world’s cultures, machismo has a totally different meaning. For those cultures, machismo is about female virtues, defending and protecting them VS male honor, displays of and enforcing it.

For example, in some cultures, the belief exists that whenever a man and woman find themselves alone, regardless of circumstance, they will be irresistibly drawn to one another. The man will be unable to restrain himself; the woman, unable to resist his charm. This has great implications for women when working on a foreign assignment and will determine if she works late at the office or if she’ll accept an offer to network or attend after work hour events.

The second most common question I am asked is:

Q: “How can I establish my authority when working overseas?”

A: For male leaders, the concept of authority is almost a given because they were born male, or hold titles of power. Female leaders, however, must go through a series of steps to gain the respect and admiration of others even if they hold titles of power. This involves more than understanding cultural workplace power and how to leverage it. It involves looking at the cultural attitudes and expectations of women in the society in which you are working in, so you don’t get blindsided.

In some cultures, men have a fraternity like attitude that is difficult to broach. It stems from centuries of learned behavior that women are to be respected as mothers and homemakers, not as business people.

In other cultures, women are to be seen and not heard. The idea stems from the age old concept that women should be creatures of beauty and admired for that trait. Hence, the concept of beauty pageants experienced in some cultures that is as popular to the locals as the world cup.

Establishing authority and fending off sexual overtures are only a few of the challenges and differences women experience while traveling to or living and working overseas. There are many other cultural assumptions that a woman must understand and manage in order to be respected while on a global assignment.

If you are a female working in the global arena or a leader who must develop a pool of female talent to send on global assignments I share the following:

  • Build awareness about your assumptions of the business world. Where and how do you view women in that space, are they support staff or do you see them as leaders who can hold power and delegate with authority?
  • How well do you understand the local environment in which you must lead? I’m not talking about the superficial stuff, or the how to do this or that. I’m talking about the deep levels of assumptions and expectations, the biases, the feelings towards and about women that exist in the local environment. Believe me they are there and you must become aware of them if you expect to succeed.
  • Look at the management and leadership style you hold and compare them to what you see in your local environment. How do the locals behave? Where can you improve? What do you need to change? How much or how deeply do you need to adapt in order to be successful? Are these differences acceptable to you and are they in alignment with your personality?

When it comes to the female leader, what men take for granted, women must work harder at achieving. For example, many times while attending meetings in a foreign country, it is assumed that if you are the man, then you are the one your foreign counterparts defer to, and address with the expectation that you, the male, hold authority to make decisions. However, if you are a female leader in the same situation, the local leaders will assume you have no decision making capacity. They display this behavior by looking for and addressing a male in your team. As a female leader in this situation, how do you handle it without losing your authority or worse, losing the deal altogether?

Prior to the meeting you prepare your colleagues by instructing them to defer directly to you, both verbally and with body language. This lets the other party know that you are the one in charge.

I once attended a business meeting with a male colleague. The leader we were meeting was top in the organization and from a high power distance country. He politely shook my hand, but immediately focused all negotiations and conversations towards my colleague. My colleague very diplomatically turned his attention towards me and deferred questions to me by saying, “Candida is the expert here and she is in charge of the entire program, I will defer that question to her so she can properly answer you.”

That was it; my colleague’s words, body language and actions let our potential client know that I was the person in charge, the decision maker and the expert. There was no loss of face or disrespect for anyone, the leader took the cue and understood how to proceed, he immediately pivoted the conversation towards me. My colleague listened patiently and intervened when I deferred the conversation back towards him.

In other words, at times you may need to speak through a male colleague while at other times; you can have your colleague defer the conversation towards you as is illustrated above. It all depends on the culture and the situation you are in.

Establishing authority as a female leader is not impossible; it just takes a bit of pre-planning coupled with the understanding of local behaviors, expectations and values. Even when armed with such knowledge, at times you may need to do some “on the spot adjustments.”

Knowing where to focus your attention and how to maneuver in your local environment is of utmost importance to success in the global market place, not only for men, but especially for women.

“Remember – you are a foreigner everywhere except in your own culture.” © 2018, Global Arrival, LLC

 

 

 

Culture Is Like A River…

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Through the years, there have been several theories used to describe culture. Since culture is so hard to describe, having a theory to try to explain it makes sense, but how much sense does it actually make when you are living in the midst of a new culture? Do you actually remember to apply the theories?

Below I describe two well known theories and add my own thoughts about culture. I hope you will find it helpful in your global work.

Culture is like an Iceberg: The top visible 10% of the iceberg is what one sees when in a new environment. The way people dress, the way they talk, what they eat, the cars they drive, the buildings they live in, etc. The bottom half of the iceberg states that 90% of the iceberg is not visible. You can’t see how people think, what they are feeling, how they process information, how they learn, etc. This theory is very popular, and does help some individuals grasp the concept, but doesn’t allow you to experience culture in the moment. It’s too mechanical.

Culture is not a “thing.” It is a state of being where groups of people and individuals act on their beliefs and those beliefs are what govern their behavior.

The second theory is Culture is like an onion. To effectively understand it, imagine an onion, and like an onion, you peel each layer of the skin, which brings you deeper into the core of the onion.

Comparing culture to an onion insinuates that for you to understand others you must peel away at layers of their personalities to get a clearer understanding of who they are. People are not like that, and you are not a psychiatrist, you are a global leader and you can’t peel away people’s personalities to get to the core of who they are.

It takes time to get understand your co-workers, colleagues, clients, business partners, etc., that is because people are growing and developing all the time, they are not fixed. Their behaviors can’t be peeled away.

These two popular theories make culture seem mysterious, dangerous and even complicated. Understanding different cultures is not an easy process, but it is also not as black and white as these two popular theories suggest.

In my opinion, culture is about feelings, perceptions, attitudes and behavioral processes coupled with action, all of which allow the existence of what is, and change of what could be, to surface. The collective mentalities of a society are what govern their culture.

Understanding culture and cultural differences or similarities, for that matter, is about suspending your own judgments about how you think things should be and to look at what really exists, what is real, right in front of you.

This type of understanding takes time to develop. As you spend time in a new country and allow yourself to become submerged in a new culture, the invisible things that were not apparent in the beginning start to surface. What seemed strange, different, mysterious or even dangerous is no longer there. This mental shift is what allows you as a leader to begin seeing things with a fresh perspective; it is what gives you the ability to lead effectively in any surrounding.

Let us explore a new approach. What I call: “The River Theory,” the idea that culture is always changing, slowly and steadily changing, like a river. Rivers change very slowly as they flow steadily along their paths. Rivers are guided by the energetic pull of gravity and it is the contours of the Earth’s surface that allow rivers to shape themselves. People in different societies also shape themselves. They too are guided by their surroundings.

Like the shifts and changes of the river, which are not noticeable to the naked eye, people’s attitudes about life also shift and change with time, those attitudes may not be so noticeable at first, but eventually, they will be impossible to ignore.

Let me give you an example: What was popular 50 years ago, or even 10 years ago may be passé today. That is because people define culture. People define the way of life they value and adhere to; they shape themselves within their own societies, inside their own boundaries.

Just like the banks of the river are its boundaries, societal rules are a culture’s boundaries. Banks give a river its shape; it holds it together so to speak, just as a river has direction, shape and boundaries, so do people of different societies. People make a culture, they are the boundaries of their own identities; they and their laws become the way they choose to govern themselves. People define culture.

Like the river, moving ever so slowly, culture too moves on, sometimes it moves rapidly, sometimes it moves slowly, at times changing course in some places, while remaining the same in others.

Culture and a river are similar in that aspect as they both are part of an existence. Both encompass their surroundings and eventually become part of it.

Are you encompassing your surroundings? Are you becoming part of it, flowing and changing ever so slowly towards mastering ease of operations in your new environment?

In my work with global leaders, the most successful ones are the ones that don’t follow any particular cultural theory. Instead, they flow, like the river, in a constant state of development and growth towards greater understanding and assimilation. This attitude is what allows them to not have to theorize away differences, but instead embrace them, work with them and flow along with the processes of what governs their new surroundings.